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Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Don't let them drive...

I got a phone call from Beanie yesterday afternoon. He was in a car accident 3 blocks from home. Another young man t-boned him while he was doing a u-turn. All parties are fine. Beanie's car, not so much. However, I'm a Mom so about the car I'm not so concerned. Of course, a 20-year old college student living frugally on a 20-hour a week minimum wage job it's a different perspective and story. Although, I think this really shook him up too. Stuff can happen and in a split second your whole life is different.

No injuries this time, but I have to tell you, this is two accidents in 4 months. Now each child has had a turn and I think it's enough. Besides, I don't think my heart can take much more. My first thought is to never let either one of them out of my sight and TO NEVER EVER, EVER let them drive again. Throw in the accident Ames was in recently and I'm completely paranoid and worried.

Okay, do I know these feelings are extreme and totally unrealistic? Yes. I'm just barely sane enough to know that, but it scares the daylights out of me to think of anything happening to my children. So I was a tad tense yesterday afternoon when everything happened.

My advice to all parents out there? DON'T LET THEM DRIVE. Yeah, I know, nobody asked me...

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Blogger CindyS said...

Yikes! Like you I'm glad there are no injuries - hopefully that's it for anything car related. Being jumpy after that would only be normal and I don't know how parents ever learn to let go.

(((((((Beanie, Mom & Dad)))))))


10:38 PM PDT  
Blogger Rosie said...

Cindy you are so sweet. Thanks. This really rattled me because it's so close after the last one. *gulp!*

Sometimes you just wish you could keep them home wrapped in cotton.

10:54 PM PDT  
Blogger Kristie (J) said...

Wow! What a scary thing for a mom - not to mention her children - to go through so close together!!
I'm glad he's OK!!! I can only imagine now how nervous you are at the thoughts of them getting into cars
((((hugs to all)))

3:34 AM PDT  
Blogger nath said...

Ouch, I totally understand why you're so worried... 2 accidents in such a short period of time, it's rattling. The most important though is that this time, no one was injured.

unfortunately for you, I don't think you'll be able to make your sons stay put... :(

4:20 AM PDT  
Blogger Rosie said...

Kristie, yes, I'm convinced my children want my hair to turn white and for me to have a permanent case of the shakes. I wish they'd take the bus. :)

Nath, no, I know I can't hold them back or keep them in the house and I don't really want to, it's just worrying that's all. We live in a very busy place with lots of traffic...very fast moving and it's always been a worry, but these two accidents have really brought it to the fore front.

6:54 AM PDT  
Blogger Casee said...

Aw, Rosie! I'm glad to hear everyone was okay.

You just have to take a leap of faith and hope that everything will be fine when they're out there on the road. It would be nice to just take the keys away and make them ride the bus, though.

I'm really not looking forward to the driving phase and am glad I still have 10 more years before it's here.

7:07 AM PDT  
Blogger Wendy said...

Unfortunately living with the fear is not a viable option - and no way to live. Such is the lot of mothers. No matter how old your kids are, you never stop worrying about them.

You could always try wrapping them in bubble wrap :) That might be awkward though....

8:21 AM PDT  
Blogger Jodi_Lee said...

Wow Rosie! The main thing is he is okay - Thank God! One more reason why I don't want children...save myself the insanity...I have so little to spare anyhow. lol

9:02 AM PDT  
Blogger ReneeW said...

So scary! What Wendy says is SO true. When my kids were little I always worried but believed that when they were over 21 I would stop worrying about them. Not so! They are now in their 20's and I still worry constantly. Every time my daughter or son calls me I'm afraid for a split second that they are going to tell me they've been in a car accident. Not logical but I can't help it.

I'm so glad Beanie is OK. It's not easy being a mother and it never stops. I pray a lot. (((Rosie & family))

10:56 AM PDT  
Blogger Tara Marie said...

Ooooo, glad to hear Beanie's fine.

I've choosen not to think about my child driving, I've got 10 years to keep it on the back worry burner.

Hugs to all involved, especially the overly worrying mommy.

10:58 AM PDT  
Blogger Smart Socratics said...

OMG!!! I am so glad he's okay! 2 in 4 months is 2 too many. Count your blessings. As you said, car's are dispensable, people are not, and he didn't get hurt. That's the thing about having children, or actually, loving anyone for that matter. You have to let them go and hope that everything is okay. The best we can do is hope for the best.

My best to you!

1:39 PM PDT  
Blogger ames said...

lock your sons up and throw away the key!!

i'm glad beanie is ok.


4:24 PM PDT  
Blogger Rosie said...

Casee, my Mom always used to say you "let go and let God" when the kids go out the door. Of course there is always a leap of faith, but sometimes it takes a bit of a beating...like yesterday.

Wendy, forget the bubble wrap. You know those padded Sumo wrestler thingys? I want those and ginormous helmets. Of course, this could impair their driving skills thus making it even more necessary to ride the bus.

Jodi, speaking for myself, truer words were never spoken, ..."save myself the insanity...I have so little to spare anyhow." Amen!

Renee, another thing my Mom always told me...the worry never stops. She said she actually worried more about us after we left home than when we were all under her supervision. :)

Tara, that first time they drive and leave the house without you in the car with them. Aaaack! Even when they are good drivers because you know the wackos and crazy drivers are out there with them. OTOH, I don't want to scare you too much. It's a natural process of growing up, it's just a bit hard on the Mom nerves.

Sue, of course I'm (we) are so grateful he's okay. His car actually looks worse than the one Shmoo was in. Now we have to deal with the realities of insurance and repairs and all that. Thank goodness he is old enough to do most of it on his own.

Ames, I had to laugh at this considering your recent accident. I'm sorely tempted to lock them up alright, just not in the same house with me. I was thinking more like a padded cell...the little schmucketys.

5:42 PM PDT  
Blogger Mailyn said...

I'm glad to hear they are OK and it was just the car. Better it than them.

I know how you feel because, even though I don't have kids, I always feel paranoid when my mom is out by herself as I know she HATES to drive and isn't the best at it.

6:57 PM PDT  
Blogger Rosie said...

Mailyn, worry is never confined to just Moms with their kids. We all worry from time to time about our loved ones.

11:46 PM PDT  

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