Further Tales of Shmoo...
We've got a busy day around here today which will be capped off when we send Shmoo off to the Homecoming dance this evening. It seems like every day his plans have changed. Fortunately I have practice with this sort of thing and we waited until last night to let Shmoo know what exactly he was allowed to do and would be doing. Why is it the kids always think all the regular rules for where they can drive, where they can go and what time they have to be home don't apply for a big dance? Shmoo actually asked to stay out until 3 a.m. Uh, yeah, no way. As he tries to negotiate a later time I put mine back a half hour each time until he finally sees the light and goes with the first curfew time (1 a.m.) which is an hour later than his usual time anyway.
Of course he slyly mentioned spending the night at his pal's house. You know the pal we've never met or heard of before this week? Whose parents we don't know? Yeah, that negotiation was short and sweet. "You can't spend the night out anywhere." Surprisingly there hasn't been any real heat or push to get his way. I've come to realize that this is his way of being able to tell his friends he asked and his parents said 'no'. It also means he probably didn't really want to do whatever in the first place.
I'll try to do a quick update about the GF situation with Shmoo because GG is telling me to get my butt in gear if we are going to swim this morning. I'm procrastinating because it's 58 degrees outside right now. Gonna be a chilly swim.
Anyway, I ended up having my chat with Shmoo about the two young ladies in his life. Turns out he and GF #1 (from the other school) are just friends because she wants to be able to "hook up" with other guys if she's so inclined. Apparently last Sunday when he went over to her house he found out that she made out with another guy at her Homecoming dance last Saturday. Of course, Shmoo wasn't too happy about that. He said he knew something was going on because she was acting weird. She finally did confess all to him and Shmoo came home early last Sunday and started the whole, "GF probably isn't going to my Homecoming." saga.
So he's trying to maintain some dignity and act like he can deal with this, quoting here, "like an adult" and decides he can still be friends with GF #1. So, GF #1 is at our house for dinner this past Wednesday and I'm thinking how weird it is they are both going stag to their individual Homecoming dances if they are a couple. Of course I didn't know all the back story yet. Now that I do I can't imagine having the chutzpah to go to a guy's house and eat dinner with his parents after I've made out with another guy. More puzzling is why my son thinks this is acting like an adult. That's a whole other chapter and conversation that he's definitely going to have to have with his Dad.
You know what's difficult? GF #1 isn't someone you'd meet and think of as a girl who's either desperate for male attention, trying to make a BF jealous, or a skank ho type. She's cute, intelligent, has good manners and seems like a really sweet girl. I'd question Shmoo's veracity if I hadn't heard her talk about wanting to go to her own Homecoming stag so she could be with her friends. Turns out the flirtation with the guy she made out with has been brewing since school started. Too complicated and too much melodrama for me.
So GF #2? She's at the house Thursday evening for a couple of hours and last night they went to the Homecoming football game together. Tonight he's picking her up for the dance, BUT they aren't going as a couple because she really likes someone else. I think Shmoo just wants to show GF #1 that what she did doesn't bother him...which of course isn't true at all. He seems fine though. Although I don't think we will be hearing about or from GF #1 any more. This seems to have been a transition week. Shmoo did say GF#1 sent him a text saying she might go to his Homecoming with a girlfriend she knows that goes to the school. That really set him off. Several blazing texts later he's pretty certain she won't show.
What next? I'm exhausted after all that and I still have to live through today. I didn't proof read this because now GG is pacing. Gotta go swimming!